My beloved teacher, John Perry, told this story:
"Danny, I owe you a refund."
"What do you mean, Mr. Perry?"
"You were supposed to get 18 lessons this semester and you didn't."
"Oh, no, Mr. Perry. I got every single one of my 18 lessons."
"No, Danny. You didn't. You had the same lesson - 18 times."
Teaching involves repetition. A student's grasp of new skills can be tenuous. There's often forgetting and remembering in quick succession. When I find the balance between remembering and reminding gets out of whack, I rethink my strategy and ask myself:
- Why am I saying the same thing again?
- Is there another way to say it?
- How can I get this student to experience doing this correctly?
- Am I talking too much?
If these questions feel right, be brave and ask the most important questions:
- Does this student want to be here?
- Do I want to be here with this student?
My red flag is catching myself being sarcastic, "Suzy, do I have to issue an individual invitation to each finger to hold itself up each and every time it plays?" That's a good sign that I'd better rethink the situation.
Do you feel like you owe someone a refund? What will you do to change that dynamic?